Ask Dr. Ilenya: Seeking Inner Peace -- Twelve Tips for a Year of Transformation
Ask Dr. Ilenya
My latest subscriber letter with questions is from Mr. Atta Yaw, Tamale, Ghana, West Africa. I do love how international we are with the internet! He sent several questions, and I've tackled the first one here today.
He also received a downloadable copy of my e-book, 77 Loving Steps for Success. You can get your own free copy if I answer one of your questions dealing with stress, personal peace, success, self-compassion and related items! Send them to me at Dr.Ilenya@powerofpersonalpeace.com.
How can one achieve inner peace?
Dear Atta,
Thank you for writing to me and here is an answer to one of your questions. Watch for the others in the next few days!
Inner peace is a choice. As I see it, based on many years of study and practice, creating inner peace is a choice. It's also the opposite of choosing to remain overwhelmed by stress.
It's amazing how after many years of practicing spiritual exercises and meditation, working on myself in classes and individual counseling, and lots of introspection and journal writing, I still have to practice at maintaining my inner peace. Thankfully, after about 30 years, when my peace is disturbed, I can move back to peace more quickly. But I still deal with multiple stressors and have to choose peace consciously in order to keep my inner peace alive and vital within me!
Your straightforward question allowed me to reflect and pull together twelve keys that I work with over and over, with clients and with myself.
How to work with these tips.
If you just read the list and say, "That's nice, these are great tips," nothing will change in your experience. So give yourself the gift of actively working one of these tips each month for the next year or so.
To get the most out of these powerful ideas, print out this list and keep it where you can review it frequently.
Pick one of these suggestions. You might lovingly reflect to make your choice, or choose one at random, or maybe one item will "leap off the page" as the first choice for you.
Now think creatively about how you can put it to work in your life.
4. Look for the good. Look for the good in yourself and in everything and everyone around you. A warm glow of peace will fill you when see the good.
5. Promote peace in yourself. Choose to stay calm in the face of challenges.
6. Love yourself. Self-compassion and self-nurturing creating a foundation of inner safety in which it's easier to stay calm and peaceful.
7. Forgive yourself for anything you've judged in yourself. Release, and enjoy the inner peace again.
8. Forgive others. Let go of grudges and resentments against others. Forgive and forget for greater inner peace.
9. Practice honesty with yourself and others. When you are true to yourself, inner peace is present.
10. Discover who you are. Remember, you are much more than the body and personality that you normally identify with. Your core, your divine essence, is peace.
11. Focus on the positive. Expect the best, do your best, and you will receive what is best for you. Accepting this, you find inner peace.
12. Become a Neutral Loving Observer of yourself and your life. Then you can accept things you don't like, but see more choices for improvement.
Bonus Tip:
13. Look at life as a grand classroom. You are here to learn and grow and uplift yourself. Greater learning and self-awareness brings inner peace.
All for now --
Joy and peace,
Dr. Ilenya
http://www.powerofpersonalpeace.com
http://www.lovingyoursuccess.blogspot.com
Copyright 2007 Dr. Ilenya Marrin. You may publish this on your own blog or website, ezine, etc., as long as you keep it intact and include my urls.
My latest subscriber letter with questions is from Mr. Atta Yaw, Tamale, Ghana, West Africa. I do love how international we are with the internet! He sent several questions, and I've tackled the first one here today.
He also received a downloadable copy of my e-book, 77 Loving Steps for Success. You can get your own free copy if I answer one of your questions dealing with stress, personal peace, success, self-compassion and related items! Send them to me at Dr.Ilenya@powerofpersonalpeace.com.
How can one achieve inner peace?
Dear Atta,
Thank you for writing to me and here is an answer to one of your questions. Watch for the others in the next few days!
Inner peace is a choice. As I see it, based on many years of study and practice, creating inner peace is a choice. It's also the opposite of choosing to remain overwhelmed by stress.
It's amazing how after many years of practicing spiritual exercises and meditation, working on myself in classes and individual counseling, and lots of introspection and journal writing, I still have to practice at maintaining my inner peace. Thankfully, after about 30 years, when my peace is disturbed, I can move back to peace more quickly. But I still deal with multiple stressors and have to choose peace consciously in order to keep my inner peace alive and vital within me!
Your straightforward question allowed me to reflect and pull together twelve keys that I work with over and over, with clients and with myself.
How to work with these tips.
If you just read the list and say, "That's nice, these are great tips," nothing will change in your experience. So give yourself the gift of actively working one of these tips each month for the next year or so.
To get the most out of these powerful ideas, print out this list and keep it where you can review it frequently.
Pick one of these suggestions. You might lovingly reflect to make your choice, or choose one at random, or maybe one item will "leap off the page" as the first choice for you.
Now think creatively about how you can put it to work in your life.
Here are some specific examples.
Do you want to learn meditation? Get a book or find an article on-line and sit down daily to practice meditating. Even five or ten minutes will pay off if you do it daily.
Are you ready to focus on what is good in yourself? Get your notebook and list five good things about yourself every night at bedtime. You can come up with other ways to acknowledge the good in yourself. The key is to do something along these lines every day!
Do you want to remember or discover that your divine essence is peace? You might close your eyes and affirm, "I am peace," or "I am at peace, resting in the center of my being." Repeat it gently until you feel it, for a few minutes each day.
Do it. Now, make time every day for the next 33 days to do at least one thing based on your chosen strategy. Put a star on your calendar each day when you complete your practice! If you miss a day, start over!
Be true to yourself and complete 33 days, because that's what it takes to create a solid new habit.
Pick another item. Next month, and thereafter, you can choose to work with a different strategy, or continue with one that seems especially valuable. In little more than a year, you'll have twelve new habits supporting your inner peace.
When you focus on inner peace over and over, a certain amount of stress simply resolves itself and vanishes. For the rest, you will have a wonderful foundation from which to handle any stressful challenges. Your foundation will be much more peaceful than it is today.
Be creative and have fun with this, and let me know your results!
Twelve Tips for Creating Inner Peace
1. Meditate or do spiritual exercises. This will give you a reference point for inner peace that will eventually spill over into your daily life.
2. Practice your faith consistently. You'll develop strength to see you through adversity, plus understanding of purpose for inner peace.
3. Practice gratitude for everything in your life. Even the things you don't like are here for your learning and growth. Gratitude leads to inner peace.
Do you want to learn meditation? Get a book or find an article on-line and sit down daily to practice meditating. Even five or ten minutes will pay off if you do it daily.
Are you ready to focus on what is good in yourself? Get your notebook and list five good things about yourself every night at bedtime. You can come up with other ways to acknowledge the good in yourself. The key is to do something along these lines every day!
Do you want to remember or discover that your divine essence is peace? You might close your eyes and affirm, "I am peace," or "I am at peace, resting in the center of my being." Repeat it gently until you feel it, for a few minutes each day.
Do it. Now, make time every day for the next 33 days to do at least one thing based on your chosen strategy. Put a star on your calendar each day when you complete your practice! If you miss a day, start over!
Be true to yourself and complete 33 days, because that's what it takes to create a solid new habit.
Pick another item. Next month, and thereafter, you can choose to work with a different strategy, or continue with one that seems especially valuable. In little more than a year, you'll have twelve new habits supporting your inner peace.
When you focus on inner peace over and over, a certain amount of stress simply resolves itself and vanishes. For the rest, you will have a wonderful foundation from which to handle any stressful challenges. Your foundation will be much more peaceful than it is today.
Be creative and have fun with this, and let me know your results!
Twelve Tips for Creating Inner Peace
1. Meditate or do spiritual exercises. This will give you a reference point for inner peace that will eventually spill over into your daily life.
2. Practice your faith consistently. You'll develop strength to see you through adversity, plus understanding of purpose for inner peace.
3. Practice gratitude for everything in your life. Even the things you don't like are here for your learning and growth. Gratitude leads to inner peace.
4. Look for the good. Look for the good in yourself and in everything and everyone around you. A warm glow of peace will fill you when see the good.
5. Promote peace in yourself. Choose to stay calm in the face of challenges.
6. Love yourself. Self-compassion and self-nurturing creating a foundation of inner safety in which it's easier to stay calm and peaceful.
7. Forgive yourself for anything you've judged in yourself. Release, and enjoy the inner peace again.
8. Forgive others. Let go of grudges and resentments against others. Forgive and forget for greater inner peace.
9. Practice honesty with yourself and others. When you are true to yourself, inner peace is present.
10. Discover who you are. Remember, you are much more than the body and personality that you normally identify with. Your core, your divine essence, is peace.
11. Focus on the positive. Expect the best, do your best, and you will receive what is best for you. Accepting this, you find inner peace.
12. Become a Neutral Loving Observer of yourself and your life. Then you can accept things you don't like, but see more choices for improvement.
Bonus Tip:
13. Look at life as a grand classroom. You are here to learn and grow and uplift yourself. Greater learning and self-awareness brings inner peace.
All for now --
Joy and peace,
Dr. Ilenya
http://www.powerofpersonalpeace.com
http://www.lovingyoursuccess.blogspot.com
Copyright 2007 Dr. Ilenya Marrin. You may publish this on your own blog or website, ezine, etc., as long as you keep it intact and include my urls.
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